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I decided to interview my male friend who is actually in a really good relationship. I chose him for the simple fact that females are not as honest as males. We are easily blinded and hopeful which leads to denial so I didn’t want anything sugarcoated. He gave me a lot of insight which would help my paper be stronger since I can add a personal source. He basically confirmed my argument although he and his girlfriends relationship are very different. I chose him because he is really the only guy friend I have that is very serious about committing to a girl and treating her in a way that every girl would want to be treated. We spoke about how he believes the relationship between them stays romantic because he (especially) and her maintain a good level of spontaneity and leave materialistic things out of their relationship. He also feels that their relationship has a deep emotional foundation which he agrees that many black relationships are lacking in the media, which in turn influences societies relationships. When I asked him what he thought about how the media portrays black couples, he agreed that they are about objectification, sex and money instead of actually being each others support system (awww). His friends, he explains, are more likely to choose a girl because of her outer appearance and if her personality is decent enough rather than if they actually feel a connection with the girl and that could be a result of the movies and videos that show exactly the same thing. I also asked about his influence. Who was the one who showed him how he should treat his girlfriend? He told me that he did what his parents did, but the opposite : ). He felt that his parents relationship was functioning but not romantic, strong but not intimate. For example he explained to me how when he takes his girlfriend out to dinner its because he wants to be in her company so that they can talk and spend time together, as opposed to his parents who will go to dinner because they are hungry and "if something comes up then hey". According to him he feels that its not really a surprise that many african american women have been found to have deep emotional ties to their friends because it is with each other that they share stress, traumas, joyful moments and even the responsibility of raising a family. He thinks its because boys dont give the emotional support that they need and its therefore necessary for them to find it in another source. My interview was boss! It was very productive and insightful. Thanks Jeremy! : )